Understanding and Managing Borderline Personality Disorder: A Comprehensive Guide

It just demonises the people who are suffering with the mental illness , making them into monsters from whom the society needs to save themselves . No perspective about the bpd people actually needing more love and support but as if they make a scene out of everything just because they are evil and they enjoy it, when actually there’s a need of empathy and understanding towards them

I am diagnosed Borderline as of 2 years ago & am fairly well maintained through therapy, medication, & a huge amount of personal work & effort.

This book is recommended for those with BPD (was recommended to me while I was hospitalized for suicidal ideation) as well as the very, very clear target of those that live with Borderlines.

This book is extremely damaging & upsetting to read if you have BPD. There is no talk of healing, only the damage that those with BPD CAN cause. Frankly, it was insulting to read.

Within the first 8 pages it encourages the reader to leave, breakup, or divorce their partner suffering from BPD. I'll be honest, I was livid. It doesn't at all present BPD as treatable nor something that can be healed (note: it can, with therapy, etc) but as a dangerous affliction.

I read the book cover to cover to make sure I wasn't missing any scrap of hope or chance of mentioning recovery, & it never came.

In the end I should have returned the book for my money back but I was so disgusted by the author(s) I threw the book away.

If you have BPD & are hoping to learn about your disorder & how to get better, this isn't the book for you. Consider Daniel Fox's "Borderline Personality Disorder" as it is exceedingly helpful & cooperates with treatment plans as well as a healing & proactive agenda.

This is a very helpful book, especially as a support to helping someone in relationship to a borderline or narcissistic person reclaim their sanity. This book gave me the courage to challenge the dysfunctional behaviors of my husband, and when I did, he left. This book allowed me to let him go, to bless and release him, and myself!

However, since this book was first written there have been significant developments in the understanding of how neurodiversity (ADHD or high-functioning autism - what used to be called Asperger's syndrome) can impact a close relationship in so many of the ways described in this book: the rigid thinking, the reactive and negative behaviors, the lack of empathy or understanding, the emotional immaturity....

This is important to bring up because there can be many different things that can cause relational dysfunction, and I'd be sad if this book failed to shed light on someone getting the clinical help for ADHD or ASD that they need to grow and improve. I am a neurodiverse couples coach, and I've been married to both neurodiverse person and someone with borderline personality disorder. In both cases, I had to learn boundaries and self-care, and to get mental health support for both myself and my partner (if they were willing to receive it, which they weren't).

So again, this book is a solid resource, but please read up on neurodiversity if you want to get a broader perspective on what might be wrong in your close relationship.

This is a very user friendly book! Written for people without experience in the mental health field. Very relatable with great examples! A very helpful read!!

This is one of the best books I have read on BPD. There are a few things in here I didn't totally agree with when I did a lot of research on this topic. However, this book is mostly spot on. I do wish this book would address the different sub categories of BPD, but I think that is something fairly new as it's not even recognized by the DSM yet. If you are walking on eggshells with someone you know I would suggest reading this book to see if they might be BPD.

Recommended by a practitioner for help with a loved one. This helps quite a bit with understanding what’s going on and the points about children are separated so it’s easy to breeze past those sections that don’t apply to my situation. I feel better equipped going into family therapy having this background information under my belt.